Stop Assuming and Start Trusting!

Assumptions are made too often and ordinarily will not get anyone too far while trying to get to the bottom of most issues that arise. For some, assuming answers, rather than allowing facts to be discovered, can come naturally to an individual.

This person may have used this method for so long without ever fully comprehending the core source of why they assume or how others feel when the inclination is performed.

Underlying concerns may originate from an individual consistently and constantly always assuming the worst case scenario. This may have started from predisposed notions witnessed either early in life. Derivatives could also be from severe or minor levels of insecurity, a sense of control or release or a number of trust related problems one may have developed, such used as a defense mechanism.

I suppose if all humans were honest, then to ask and trust others would be more of a second nature. This would make life and all its chaotic moments that much more easy to grin and bare through. However, we all know this is not the case, but relying on trust within all inquiries must be initiated in order to figure out the fiction from fact.

The truth within regarding concerns should not matter whether the answer or inquiry is more serious or more meaningful than the next. The trust one must have for another will always outweigh the problematic tone and potential catastrophe brought forth by mere assumptions. 

Knowing the factual information firsthand, rather than information stated by third party persons, would be thought of as common sense to most. This concept tends to be left underneath the dinner table for the dog to eat or for a later date when it is found to be molded and steaming with a foul smell. In other words, that of the purposeful truth is lost until normally found to late once the damage has been created without the hope of pressing any rewind button.

The mind has a tendency to play mind games and tricks, rather than gather the associated content needed to truly have a debatable and mature conversation with another human being.

The old saying goes, “Don’t assume, because you make an a - - out of me and an a - - out of you.” I believe this is true to the highest degree. Humiliation can be the emotion felt between both parties, especially if assumptions are made way above and beyond where the truth lies.

One making assumptions may not know how to accumulate collection of factual information. Or one may simply assume if they ask, then the other person would never tell the truth anyhow. This leads to bitter feelings when it comes to lack of trust and communicative skills in any type of relationship.

Think of jealousy and how a current or past boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife…etc has come to you with an assumption. They may have approached the situation without any comprehensive facts as far as the who, what, when, where, why or even the how. This person may have refused to let you justify any explanation as to what lay in the eyes of the truth.

Has that same individual presented their clear cut notion of “what really happened”, but never allowed you to state your case at that moment, nor in the future and the relationship ended or dissipated because of repetitive behaviors without improvements?

This unwillingness to have any thoughts of hearing you. It also is bound from disbelief that the simple truth is not that simple to be heard, no matter what that may be. When one makes an absolute incorrect conclusion it can be the most frustrating and overwhelming sense of disappointment.

Ultimately, the origin of the anger may feels on either end of the assumption could have been prevented with opening clearer lines of communication, patience and actively listening.

If one insists upon assuming, especially within any relationship, without the allowance of  verbalization, then consideration of the another route for the relationship’s destination may need to be filtered or started fresh.

Unless one is willing to make a personal change within their own emotions the fact of assuming will always present itself in insecure conditions causing unneeded conflicts. Stop assuming and start trusting or get out!

These abrupt circumstances could be avoided by complete trust and honesty, mutually, for one another instead of jumping to fictional opinions or beliefs.

Never make assumptions, but remember to set the truth free!

Article Written by Mandy Zadoorian

One Person Has the Power To Make A Difference

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Each person has the ability to make a difference in the World, yet without belief of personal potential, the changes are not as significant. The power to change and improvement the world can be jump-started for success when one appreciates the possibilities are truly unlimited.

After skimming through some random websites one day I had come across verbiage within a paragraph written, “…it is too hard for one person to ever make a difference in this world, so why try?…”. Regretfully, the person listed only as “anonymous”. I wanted to express to “anonymous” a rebuttal, yet also appreciation for the impact of inspiration this short sentence had provided me with at that moment.

As much as I wanted to dispute the comment I decided instead to make every effort to prove the statement to be fiercely incorrect. People do carry a natural willingness to make some type of difference each day, but sometimes this is given with unknown effort or cause.  The willingness to make a difference only has to be portrayed by one person. It does not have to be an entire army to back up the one man or woman in order to change the path of the rest of those who follow.

One person has the ability to facilitate positive influences. By recognizing the difference they feel need to be made and transformed, then they have all the power to incorporate their concept as an individual and produce the transformation into a wonderful reality.

Choices and decisions are made daily by humans and not all are thought out or devised plans for the greater good of mankind. The power of freewill can create the domino effect that enables the toppling over of you and those surrounding you. Some decisions may help others and some may absolutely damage. Whether the outcome from the original selection was intentional or not can cause unwanted results. Results can have severe consequences or the most gratifying rewards ever received.

Why do some feel they cannot possibly provide the surmountable assistance another may need or feel their help will never be enough?

If one is able to apply a sense of empathy, trust, and ethical values, then motives may contain more proportionate and a concise representation in the long run.  

There are various ways to make a difference in the world. Below are suggestions as to how each person can contribute in order to make a difference.  

• Helping innocent lives for genuine, yet demanding causes, such as a foundations, charities, or the vast variety of organizations demanding various levels of help
• Volunteer: Local schools, churches, hospitals, clubs, businesses or other organizations
• Begin a fundraiser to raise money for a cause of your choice
• Actor, radio personality, singer, or let your voice shine through words as a writer
• Doctor, nurse, surgeon or general involvement within the medical field. There is an immense shortage of nurses and medical support staff currently in the United States
• Serving your Country: Navy, Army, or Marines
• Seminarian, Humanitarian, Biologist
• Protect and serve: Firefighters, Policeman, or Security careers

There list above could be expressed with an unlimited amount of documentation to support and justify how much one person has the power within themselves to help in various ways. Endless resources are collecting dust to be utilized to help us, help others.

Devise a plan of action to get the involvement of others is ever found thinking to yourselves that what you have to offer is not enough. Implement an objective to help the progression of dreams, desires, positive, and influential changes to take place.

Make a promise to follow through with goals and honor them. Set ideas into stone and push forth the concrete reality desired to make a gratifying reality. Never prevent the mundane from being transformed into a more defined potential. Work on the Incorporation of encouragement for friends, family, colleagues, or others to also reap the rewards from the gift of help in order to enable their own magic to make a difference.

Ask what is preventing the assistance and implementation of change you could provide right now.

Appreciate chances and all opportunities we truly do have to give back to the world we live in. Remember, a smile is a 100% free gesture that illuminates and radiates as a contagious moment from one person to the next. A smile is sometimes all it takes to make a difference today.

Article Written by Mandy Zadoorian 
 
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Make It Happen!

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"People can be divided into three groups; those who make things happen, those who watch things happen, and those who wonder what happened." 

- Nicholas Murray Butler

This is such a fantastic quote and very true, real, and utterly purified to get such a simple point across to us all. This is something that each one of us need to live by in order to achieve the goodness in our lives we demand and desire.

Each of us have the choice to pursue our dreams or think about them or just to watch others achieve success that we want too, but never had the belief to put forth genuine effort to try.

Think about what you most want in your life. Even make a list of short-term versus long-term goals. Then write ways to succeed each of these goals making them all into a reality in your life. Write down the steps each goal would take to achieve with patience, willingness, and consistency it WILL take to encourage it to happen.

Keep me updated on how you are all doing and remember the Holidays are coming....also, I advise everyone to take a second look at what you DO have in life today be thankful for. Give praise for each thing you do have, rather than what you don't!

How To Stay Positive When Others Aren't

Image by TheOneKidKyle via Flickr"Just stay positive" is what we hear as we grow from children into adults from teachers, parents and peers; however, why are some unable to grasp this concept, while others potentially take it for a great leap of faith?

This is a belief that endures all other emotions and behaviors to the fullest degree. This boosts who we are and what we can offer within our life and those whom surround us with their presence. A positive tone will most definitely set the bar for others, along with proving boundaries as limitless, whereas negativity only encourages blocks and various barriers to be placed before us.

There is never a need to be negative when one can be positive and I understand that sounds more easily said than done, but this is quite true. If one has the will to change thought processes and patterns, then it is possible to have comprehension beyond even the wildest of dreams and surreal expectations.

Think about those in your life, including yourself, that walk around without a simple smile or give the cold shoulder to other surrounding them. Maybe they even provide some type of cruel verbiage with every encounter of another as soon as their back turns. Do you know someone life this, maybe even more than one person?

Take a moment to ask yourselves:

• Is there someone in your life that tends to come to you for support each time they fail due to their negative nature as if they have a black cloud beaming over their head?
• Does this person have the same, repeated cycle occur over and over producing more negativity over the years you have known them? 
• Do you think about how your actions may reflect negatively to those you go to when a less then desirable result comes into your own life? 
• How do you handle any  "successful failures"?
• Does negativity weigh upon your attitude at the drop of a hat or are you able to brush it off and pursue your positive thought processes when an event or challenge goes differently than planned?

Below are astounding and amazing results merely discovered through personal experiences over the past few years from being within a great management team.

• Enjoy life more effectively, naturally, and fully
• Rarely encounter depression from fear, doubt, or overwhelming, uncontrollable situations
• More outgoing, more confident, and more able to effectively achieve goals
• See the cup half full by understanding there is always a brighter side in the midst of a dark circumstance or situation
• Offer a helping hand, purely, to serve as an empathetic ear in relation to compassion
• Less stress factors by working through problems, rather than dwelling on things they cannot change
• Motivated problem-solvers by at least attempting even the impossible solutions to dire answers

This is relative to those thinking positively versus negatively. The sheer essence a positive thinker proves their ability to enable so many others to be able to lean on them for support and guidance.  is able to provide to so many others

These vast, influential qualities allow others to maintain a sense of approachability that negative characteristics just will not and cannot allow. Positivism portrays such great power of ones capabilities for personal drive and expectations.

Negativity has a tendency to hold one back. Negative thinkers have the potential to loose out on opportunities, because they were already considering change as a failure before ever experienced. There is also a lack of appreciation and gratitude that assimilates hand and hand with this behavior, but if realized there is more opportunism and rewards are out there to be discovered, then one can still conquer the negative battle and get back up on their saddle to ride another day.

Never let another prevent your positive glow from shining out. Never let another prevent the happiness and limitless possibilities to prevent becoming a reality. Never settle for another negative thought enter and seclude your mind's positive balance in order to fulfill the heart's content.

Know you deserve the reap these opportunities and rewards if you can stay positive, no matter what the day brings or hold upon your lap.

There Is No Need To Worry

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Written by Mandy Zadoorian

The act of worry is not anything to be taken lightly and is considered a major influence that enables a series of negative outcomes to become a reality. People tend to become out of tune with relationships, jobs, family and most importantly, themselves. Although it is human nature to be concerned at times the immense emotion boundaries of worry mostly lingers within and around key circumstances in which one has no control.

Worry does not care which person it intrudes; anyone can have an extremely abrupt and overwhelming sense of the emotion utterly overpower them. The instance will normally backlash with a bad case of vulnerability.  

From all the research performed by various psychologists, philosophers and elite scientists, worry has been found to only to be within human beings, opposed to animals or any other living organism with a brain.

Worrisome behaviors have overpowered human kind for centuries; however, there are methods to enable and adjust the mind from the routine thought patterns. These techniques can be quote effectively successful.

The shear consumption of worry causes a lack of ability to concentrate on daily tasks. A harsh realization related to resistance factors can implode into the life of a worry-filled individual. This can also determine one to halt their motivation and ability to move forward with, normally, everyday functions.

This behavior attributes to emotional mechanisms, in turn, developing into habitual progressions. One surrenders all clear cut balances they once had or could later still have yet, along with depressing positive outlook and perception, previously very comfortable with.

Comfort is a major defiance of worry, because anyone can get frustrated from a snag in routine matters and functions. However, one whom worries lacks the knowledge action from having the overbearing sense of hopelessness.

Differentiating an individual’s reality from fictional characteristics, now endured by worry, can be complex. One must learn how to reinforce a new way of thinking in order redeem the “emotional  norm” and stop emotional chaos dead in its tracks.

One must begin to trust in terms of positive thinking. Imagining a desired outcome by remembering what one once had, may now demand, or require for their future. Once the mind is able to comprehend more consistent notions that past cannot be changed, then the process to live in the present can help conclude a recovery process. Those willing to sacrifice the old mind set to for the new are more inclined to have a more quick passing of this issue.

One can then embark upon the unknown in a new light and feel a sense of freedom with profound empowerment maybe never witnessed prior. Recall all moments in life, up until today, to imagine all items you dwell upon. Ask yourselves could anything have been changed? Did I make it though the situation and if so, how?

A great example of how we were technically forced to release worry or anxiousness was while younger, in school. Each year, we grew and so did the schools, people, homework…etc. Schooling became more intense and more responsibility was asked of each student, including you. From a child’s eyes, some items provoked thoughts of too much difficulty to have even imagined, yet somehow, the mind and its power of persuasion helped most of us make it.

Reinforcement of growth and newly found inner-confidence provided us with the concepts that could be easily understood as children. This assisted a welcomed embrace for those new experiences and challenges. Even though it may have seemed awful while going through this, the mind allowed resolution of the worry and fear. It was then replaced with a level of drive for success.

When one has always submitted to worry from previous experiences in their life, then it is due to the mind reacting the only way it knows how. This reaction is accumulated by repetitive actions are produce the same results in similar situations each occurrence.

Below are some ideas to start changing the way you think in order to overcome the patterns of worry within your life:

• Just breathe. Breathing is the brain and body’s natural defense mechanism to calm itself, more so the mind and heart
• Visualize different scenarios for successful solutions or desired outcomes for the future
• Map out a plan of action with the pros and cons of how the worry is consuming your life and solutions of how to simplify aspects of your day or life that impact the feelings of worry
• Relaxation techniques through: Meditation, Yoga, More sleep, Talking to a professional or  friend to help find a source or the problem and potential resolution, Exercise,  Improve eating patterns and habits

Over  time, begin referencing back to the plan that you find to work best. Check to see how you have improved and what challenged you are still experiencing and how those items areas still seen as conflicting can be positively altered.

The only one that carrying the burden of worry is the only one that can exploit it, rid it, and tell it goodbye!





 

Never Let Anyone Shatter Your Dreams

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“Never let another shatter your dreams”! This is what we are told while, normally, very young, and perhaps, as we grow into our older years as well. The concept for this statement always remains the same  - It is still 100% true! As a child, I had no idea what this meant and I am sure that I was not the only one. As I matured, I realized these words had more meaning to them then meets the eye.

Who knew this sentence would hinder my negative outlook into something now golden, as if the light bulb finally turned on within my mind after so many years of being completely burnt out. I have never regretted anything in life, but years pass us by so quickly it may be hard to put time and effort into those things one really has the desire to accomplish. It is the choices we choose not to make that cause the wonder of what could have been.

There are so many others that envy another person’s successes. Some will go to great lengths to create the most extensive obstacles keeping another from achieving their ultimate dream. It is only up to one person never allow anyone to shatter the dream worked for so hard to still strive for achievement.

I have been in a predicament before when I wanted to do something from deep within my soul, yet I let another encourage me to shy away. I did something I no longer do. I listened to their negative advice persuading me out of what I really wanted to do in order to obtain my dreams.

I know now that no matter the cost, no matter whom else tries to interrupt my path to achievement, I will not stop to second guess my motives. It took me awhile, but I figured out I am here on this Earth to do something great, just as everyone else has been. My goal in life is to do whatever it takes to make someone else feel more empowered while enlightening the notion all life is worth living by setting forth a plan of action.

I try to express ways for one to transform their life into something more than the “norm”. Also, the anyone has the power to improve their live and the past does not effect a meaningful life for the future. I have always wanted to do something great for others in order to help them in anyway I could think of. I am not sure why  or where this sense of assistance came from, but it has been there as long as I can remember and I am not content or humble with my self unless I am giving help away to someone else.

It is almost as if I cannot feel complete if there is not a way to create a way for another to feel happiness for them self. This is why I choose to write inspirational pieces, among other positive articles as such. If I cannot meet you one-on-one, then please, I ask you to hear my genuine nature through my voice of words.

Unfortunately, achieving a dream can be shattered in an instance. It could be family, friends, counselor or another one looked to for support or any other reason. The problem being, these are all the people one needs in their life to say “anything is possible“, not that it’s not.

Each person can make their dream a reality with having the faith and know how by saying “I can“! Removing the words, “I can’t” need to be removed from every persons vocabulary and frankly, I think the dictionary as well; however, that is merely my personal opinion.

Dismiss all apprehensions, fears, doubts, especially the individuals invading potential. Only one person lets another individual within their life to prevent a dream. Only one can endure the heartache of an individual striping away what you want out of life. Only one can surpass previous failures to now welcome opportunities. Only one can create their own challenges to ultimately enter the world of a successful dreams made into a successful reality.

The only one is you!

Selflessness Through Self-Sacrifice and Compassion

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Article written by Mandy Zadoorian

Selflessness caters characteristics more profound within the human psyche than most others that can ever be described or expressed by an individual. One must completely engage their inner standers of compassion to aid another in moments of weakness or hopelessness. The merciful services rendered in absolute trust and self-sacrifice depicts the sheer intent for selflessness.

The honor, courage, and immaculate assistance is something all are fully capable of giving to another human being. It is a downright amazing feature we have  to hold within our core. The act of selflessness allows an everlasting level of moralistic and significant values of compassion deep inside the beholder.

There has either been or will be a space in time when each person must take and accept their duty to facilitate the needs of another. This may be demand on behalf of a friend, family member, acquaintance or a compete stranger. This is when the sheer action for selflessness and sense of self-sacrifice are in order to help in some way, shape, or form.

An uncanny sense of aim is reinforced to embody only the most sincere presence of compassion for those in need. These targeted, individuals, victims or traces of innocent life is seen often, maybe daily, for some. These people need an opportunity to be provided with assistance. Unfortunately, only a mere few are willing to accept the responsibility of this challenge to actually do anything..

Selflessly supplying someone with your own inner-strength, awareness, and ultimate power becomes the primary function self-sacrifice and has a sense similar to that of a hero. This action reflects one with a kind heart and pure motive to assist another without ever expecting or ever asking of anything in return.

Therefore, the million dollar question then becomes,  why are some reluctant to offer an abundance of assistance to another, versus those whom carry within the “hero-like” essence to rightfully bolt to anyone in need, no matter how significant the aid demands?

Character Representations below are believed to be the most common influences of reluctance:

• Fear: Being afraid for personal safety or not trust loyal intention of those asking for assistance
• Powerlessness: Feeling nothing can be done by their hand, lack of experience or knowledge
• Selfishness: Normally a type of person that asks, “Why would I help this person?”
• Insecurity: : Feeling incapable to provide resourceful aid or afraid their help is not satisfactory
• Presumptuous: To assume “Someone else will help …”

So, how can one develop a surefooted approach to become an able-bodied member of society and overcome the reasons of “why not” , instead asking, “how” they can help?

Genuinely, all have the ability to produce reasonable aid to those carrying within a burden of any sort or a loss of faith to help themselves. To acquire a foundation for substantial selflessness is entirely related to the act of being able to release. One must make the choice to release their anger, powerlessness, insecurities, assumptions, doubt, fear and selfishness. Once these have been set aside for release, then the capacity to provide the gift of a helping hand becomes more profound.

Anyone can change their predisposed views to renew a balanced perception to then retrieve a level of power, trust, confidence and more of a positive, heart-felt motive for the newly discovered empowerment. Empathy is the psychological admiration humans have to visualize or modify our own perception to truly feel another persons’ point of view or circumstance. This can depict the wise wolf within a pack of thousands. This then embodies a willingness for selflessness though self-sacrifice and compassion.

What Makes You Work Harder?

Everyone has "wants" versus their needs", but what makes us work harder for one thing versus another?

Well, read closely, because I have the answer to this mind-boggling qauestion and I would love to know what you all think as well.


Motivational Drive:

1. Money
2. Love
3. Balance
4. Career
5. Children
6. Education

These are the few motivational factors consistant of one's ability to try harder to achieve various successes. Everything in life needs to be given the same amount of equal effort in order to offer the level of balance one needs in everything performed on an even keel.



Let me know your thoughts.

Life's Chaotic, But Everything Seems To Work Out

Life can be quite chaotic and more than just chaotic, it can be so much more that I can't even think of a word for right now, so I guess it would be best suited to say life can leave one quite speechless at times; however, even when life seems to tug and pull at us, we fight back. More so, life seems to work out and help produce miracles at those times when we feel we need them most and occur unexpectedly at that.

 Designed by Mandy Zadoorian

Miracles happen to those who are welcoming of them. Most don't even stop to think about what exists in life regarding miracles they have already been blessed with.

Think about your life each day to take stock of the amazing and outstanding miracles that have entered your life, only to help offer a fresh start beyond the horizon. The new beginning may not always been to a place anticipated before hand. The path may not have lingered into something even wanted or realized it was desired. Paths lead us all into different directions so we can see the higher meaning once we do finally reach the destination originally desired, even though it sets off kilter once in a while.

We all live and learn from mistakes made or destructive situations that have made us all better people for it. We may have never learned the "right way" to pursue a dream or desire, yet had we never pursued any path to drive down in the first place, then we would feel "stuck" in the same position we were never to see the bright light intended for us.

I, myself, have been going through a tough time at this point in my life, as we all do. We feel like we are the only ones experiencing moments of hopelessness and frustration and a loss of guidance in the massive world of woes. I know remaining optimistic of opportunities I have yet to see are well worth the patience I've put forth already. I know remaining positive will have the pay off, even though it may seem dim right now. I have figured out to look at the miracles I have truly been blessed with in my past to push me towards the one that awaits.

PROUD TO ANNOUNCE: "THE NEW SWIFT GIFTS SHOP"!!!

Ok, ok, ok....I finally came to a final decision on the title for my shop at Improve Life!!

I changed the gifts around a bit to ensure the best quality and quantity for the needs of those looking for the absolute sweetest deals around.

• Every single product is solely hand-picked by yours truly. 

• All are perfect for anyone, anytime and for any occasion.

• A pretty sweet feature has also been added: When clicking on a products desired or of general interest, a comparison will appear providing other stores and competitor pricing so you KNOW these items placed into this blog are the best....or not. 

• If an item's value is shown to be better somewhere else, you're in luck, because those products can still be purchased through the same page and link, without the hassle of opening a ton of sites and searching for something possibly not even in stock. If you know me, you know I am not one to waste my own time, let alone yours!

PLEASE FEEL FREE TO CONTACT ME WITHOUT HESITATION SHOULD ANY QUESTIONS OR CONCERNS ARISE, OTHER THAN THAT....HAPPY SHOPPING AND WELCOME TO:

"THE NEW SWIFT GIFTS SHOP"

ABOVE, THE LINK IS TAKEN DIRECTLY TO "THE NEW SWIFT GIFTS SHOP" OR THERE ARE SEVERAL MORE THAT CAN BE DISCOVERED THROUGHOUT MY BLOG.

Thank you as always for the support and commenting on my blog...from who wants to see more of what to who wants to see less of something...Remember, I made this site for you and it is all of you that help me strive to do my best, each and everyday.

"Thank A Friend Day" Today!

Today, I have considered it to be: 

"Happy Thank A Friend Day"

A good friend is there for you until the end of time...they always have been there and always will be. It is someone to laugh with, cry on their shoulder, go to for advice, learn valuable lessons from, including offer our lessons to in return. The best friend we have is generally the person we lean on for support through whatever obstacles life brings. We know if we call them, they would drop day and night t be there for us, because we do the same for them in their time of need.


One encounters many things and instances in life enabling the heart to be wounded in more ways than one....a best friend is the one willing to stand by your side through it all.

Think for a moment about the last time you felt a broken heart or needed someone so deeply to console your most intimate emotions...who did you go to? It's was probably your friend, the one you know better than they know themselves and vice verse. They are the one that can lift our smiles and sadness with the sound of their voice and gentle words.

Of course some friends will come and go, but a true friendship of loyalty and appreciation means more than having a thousand friends that never care to know who I truly am, never call to ask how I'm doing or show up to your house when you were too upset to even call to ask them, yet somehow they "just knew" by sensing something to be wrong.

Take a moment out to thank those friends who have been there through thick and thin to help us live happier and more productive lives, because we have them.

Thank you Jervana, for being there for me when I have needed you most. We have had so much fun through the past few years. We have shared tears, laughter, and various challenges that will last a lifetime. I am so thankful to be able to have a friend like you in my life and could never have asked for a more in regards to our loyal friendship. I believe we were meant to meet along the way and I thank God we did.

Dedicated Post: Jervana, my best friend and "twin"...Thanks buddy!!

I love you!

Who's the one that you will take a moment out to thank today for being your close friend through the years?


Thank you to all my friends...you all mean everything to me and I couldn't do it without you all!

How To Stay Positive When Negativity Owns So Many

"Just stay positive" is what we hear as we grow from children into adults from teachers, parents and peers; however, why are some unable to grasp this concept, while others potentially take it for a great leap of faith? This is a belief that endures all other emotions and behaviors to the fullest degree. This boosts who we are and what we can offer within our life and those whom surround us with their presence.

A positive tone will most definitely set the bar for others, along with proving boundaries as limitless, whereas the negativity only encourages blocks and various barriers placed before us.

There is never a need to be negative when one can be positive and I understand that sounds more easily said than done. If one has the will to change thought processes and patterns, then it is possible to have comprehension beyond even the wildest of dreams and most surreal expectations.

Take a moment to think about those in your life, including yourself, that walk around without a simple smile or cruel verbiage with every encounter.

• Is there someone in your life that tends to come to you for support each time they fail due to their negative nature as if they have a black cloud beaming over their head?
• Does this person have the same, repeated cycle occur over and over producing more negativity over the years you have known them? 
• Do you think about how your actions may reflect negatively to those you go to when a less then desirable result comes into your own life? 
• How do you handle any  "successful failures"?
• Does negativity weigh upon your attitude at the drop of a hat or are you able to brush it off and pursue your positive thought processes when an event or challenge goes differently than planned?

Below are the astounding results that were discovered through personal experience over the past 2 years relative to those thinking positively versus negatively and what benefits positive thinkers most:

• Enjoy life more effectively, naturally, and fully
• Rarely encounter depression from fear, doubt, or overwhelming, uncontrollable situations
• More outgoing, more confident, and more able to effectively achieve goals
• See the cup half full by understanding there is always a brighter side in the midst of a dark circumstance or situation
• Offer a helping hand, purely, to serve as an empathetic ear in relation to compassion
• Less stress factors by working through problems, rather than dwelling on things they cannot change
• Motivated problem-solvers by at least attempting even the impossible solutions to dire answers

These vast, influential qualities allow others to maintain a sense of approachability that negative characteristics just will not and cannot allow. Positivism portrays such a mundane power of ones capabilities for personal drive and expectations.

Negativity has the ability to hold one back and potentially loose out on what is truly embraced with gratitude and appreciation. Never let another prevent positive happiness and limitless possibilities to prevent becoming a reality. Never settle for another negative thought enter and seclude the mind's positive balance in order to fulfill the heart's contentment.


(Article Published - September 11, 2010)

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A Thank You From Me To All Of You

I just wanted to take a moment out to thank all of the readers, all those who comment on my blog posts, my followers here and at The Blog Frog.com, including all of the supporters I have behind me, and, of course, my family and friends that have always been there for me telling me to "shut up and do what you gotta do...be happy and never settle!" I love honesty, without the "bs"...those are what "true friends" really are!!!

Over the past few months I have learned so much about how much people, compete strangers, really do care about lending a helping hand and friendly words of wisdom. That has meant more to me than all the money in the world and has proved to me how blessed we ALL are!

I thank you all from the bottom of my heart and will continue to do whatever I can to help others as I too have received assistance along this amazing, transformational journey.

I am grateful that I have been able to grasp so many great inspirations from those I've met over such a short period of time. I see great things and as long as I keep the best interests of others, including myself, within all that I do and in my heart. 

Stay positive and all rewards have the chance to exceed all expectations, in turn, creating extraordinary miracles we endure each and every day.

I consider life to be an awesome adventure that keeps going until one wants it to stop, but who wants that right? :)

As I have stated a million times...

" WELCOME EVERY CHANGE AS AN OPPORTUNITY, NEVER GIVE UP ON DREAMS, STAY POSITIVE, HOLD LOVE HIGH WITHIN YOUR HEART IN EVERYTHING YOU DO AND WITH EACH STEP YOU DECIDE TO TAKE IN ORDER TO BE HUMBLE AND HAPPY WITH THE LIFE YOU HAVE BEEN GIVEN."

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Our Senses Of Inspiration

Image by cappndave via Flickr   "The Greater Good"-By Mandy Zadoorian-
Article Published at Selfgrowth.com (Self-Realization Expert)

 
We have so many valuable things we are able to incorporate into our lives that can motivate our deepest inspirations. Think of each of our 5 senses to be a glorification of life. The use of these abilities are meant to be realized at a higher level for advantages of this concept to be understood for all they are. Some unfortunately, will never get the chance to reach or implement any of these opportunities as such. Our senses have the capacity to impact effects for miraculous discoveries to finally exist in our everyday routine.

Some will never have the element of joy involved with any abundance to feel or touch a flower or to even recognize any comprehension the sheer miracle of its creation of color and texture, because they have never been given the gift of sight. One who has never heard the sounds of a bird’s song as it sings to its mate, because they cannot hear or listened to an orchestra play as the conductor guides them through each note.. Have empathy for those who cannot have the option to smell or taste food’s extraordinary scent and ultimate enjoyment. Even one that endures no pain when they are hurt, because they have no sense of touch to feel any type of sensations.

For those that have each 5 gifts, know each is to be held high in the mind‘s golden thoughts to give a second smell or savor the food upon your tongue for a few more seconds that you had before. Think of those who will not get the same loves for them as you have.

Do you think twice while gazing at a harmonic sunset and completely wait until it falls beyond the horizon?

Are you one to listen to really hear those you love most of all in the world for just a few more moments to catch a glimmer of their voice speaking their heart felt words?

When one is ever doubting their own life and all they feel is forgotten and lost, will you be the one to be there reminding them how much their life is still in need of their body and mind by offering your kind words of wisdom and overall strength? Remind yourself to cherish the small items in life that have become missing elements completely erased from the mind, while shoveled to the side, such as the smell of freshly cut grass or the thick, humid air after a midnight Summer rain. Recall all the variations of ideas and contentment from earlier years, perhaps childhood. Embracing the scents and scenery when you were growing up and what had been possibly taken advantage of when you felt sad or frightened, to make you feel more alive and hopeful once again. Smell the safety of it all and the calmness it gave to you.

What was the reassuring light you had to cover thoughts of premature worry as a young boy or girl? When was the last time you felt no major concerns, as if that same worry was released from all thoughts, even if only for a second?

When did life consist of an utter sense of freedom? What was the meaning when life imposed no consumption of responsibly having less impact on the ever changing days that may be a concern today?

Resume the meaning to feel more empowered by today for all  present circumstances and release them into a goodness that now cannot be forgotten.

Where would you go when you wanted to escape from the world’s chaotic sirens of sound and shadows of a doubt? Is this the place or environment you gathered to feel more safe and protected? What could you smell? What was around you? Who was there with you? Were you alone?

Gather your thoughts together to recollect positions were you felt fear, yet were able to surround yourself in a better situation solely by the use of one of your senses. It may be from the smell or touch, the taste, or site or what you desired to hear that was able to repress your inner fear in order to defeat it. Our senses have been given to us, even if one does not have all their senses functional, whether it was from birth or lost throughout a time during life --- one must learn to use what we DO have to better and improve our lives to the highest degree as humanly possible.

Understanding anything we do or want or need is always originated by our senses. It may be a “sixth” sense, such as our intuition, but it is where the thoughts in our mind begin  and allow us to leap to the next step needed to attain and achieve every thing we do or don’t choose to accomplish.

We are all the same inside, we all bleed the red blood we were given with, we were all meant to see the greater good in life and the earth in which we live. However, if the world is not seen for its beauty and grace, then the meaning is missed. Life is missed out for what it was intended. All of the basic components within a lifetime are given to us as a precious gift that needs to be felt, smelled, seen, heard and tasted. It is all around us and it needs to be reminded of its voice.

The only question that remains --
Will you now use the senses within you to show others your true passions?

Loving Life As We Know It - My Dreams!

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How can one learn to LOVE LIFE AGAIN..What Dreams Need To Be Maintained or Sought After To Be Purely Happy?

I am only 27 years old know I have so much let tto offer the world nin terms of fulfilling my dreams. I wanted to list some of the things that mean more to me to accomplish more so than anything else in the world...my dreams:

1. To be a great writer
 

2. Offer my advice to those that are not sure the direction to turn when they have reached their absolute bottom - Only know, cause I have been there myself and found my own ways out of the deepest holes

3. Explain to others how to welcome change and transformatrions into their daily routine once again

4. To have financial freedom 

5. To publish  an entire serious of my own books and travel around the world to promote it

6. To be a good mother to my son and give him all the support he needs so when he gets older he will KNOW he can do whatever he wants, as long as it is for the best for himself and those that surround him

7.  To continue (or eventually be) to be a good friend, wife (eventually), daughter, grandmother (we won't go there for about 20 more years..phew) and sister

8. To never let anyyhing hold me back from accomplishing my dreams...I WILL SUCCEED...

If I Fail....I Will Never Give Up!!